social media identity

You are what you say you are.

Seriously though, this is perhaps one of the biggest truth bombs I’ve ever dropped.

If you say you’re Bigfoot’s grandson, then what evidence do I have to prove the opposite?

I know it’s a weird example, but I’m trying to make a pseudo-scientific point that whatever you say you are, I must assume is true unless proven otherwise.

Let me ask you this…

If you’re the kind of person who’d like the world to think the best of you, would you then use something like social media to manipulate people into thinking you’re someone awesome?

Before you answer with a no, like you’re the legitimate offspring of the rulers of the ancient civilization of Unicornia, I want to ask you another question.

How “real” do you keep it?

Like on a scale from 1 to 10, how accurate does your social media reflect you?

If you’re saying 10, you’ve dropped your nose one too many times in that bucket of fairy dust mate.

And if you’re wondering what a bucket of fairy dust is, you can still be saved.

Now the reason that I’m bringing up that scale is that in my opinion, no matter how “accurate” you try to depict yourself on social media, there’s no way you’re even reaching a 7 out of 10.

And you know what? That’s great because otherwise you risk being a narcissist who thinks every single detail about yourself is worth sharing.

Besides, nobody is waiting to hear about your habit of using only toilet paper to wipe your bum.

BTW, I blame western society for that.

Moving on.

Of course, the narcissism thing works the same way on the opposite end.

If you’re portraying yourself entirely as someone you’re not, it means you’re narcissistic enough to believe that your need to manipulate outweighs the consequence of people being manipulated.

I know, very meta stuff I’m talking about but bear with me.

You don’t have to make social media a complete mirror of your true self.

I say f*%@$ck that, and use social media to give people an indication of who you are and who you WANT to be.

This way you’ll show people you don’t take yourself too seriously.

Banter and self-mockery were invented for that kind of thing you know.

It’s simply a way to balance things out.

At least that’s what wise old people would tell you, and I would never dare to dispute them.

FYI, spend a day in an old people’s home, and you’ll exit the building feeling like you had a convo with a dozen Yodas.

Kind of like how you’re feeling now ey?

It’s okay to admit it; I have that effect on people.

But in all seriousness, aside from that short little purge of arrogance on my side, what I’m trying to get at is that social media was never meant to be about people getting to know each other.

Social media is about people getting to know a VERSION of each other.

The version of yourself you’re putting on display is of course not static.

It can change, it can grow, it can adapt, and it can be gone in an instant as seen with people involved in widespread scandals.

So fundamentally speaking, our social media identity is an image of a version of ourselves.

So why does all this matter and why am I here sitting here in my office aka home aka my bed, and with a bar of dark chocolate next to me challenging me not to eat it, writing all this nonsense-but-actually-kinda-yeah stuff down?

It’s because I want you to know there’s zero shame in creating a facade around your personhood on social media.

After all, the biggest form of entertainment was born out of perfecting the art of acting.

Like right now, me writing this blog post thinking I’m all clever and original, while in reality, my face is just in serious mode.

So when it comes to being responsible with your social media identity, you just need to make sure it’s at least partially based on the truth.

Be aware of the fact no-one believes you’re as awesome as you want them to think.

Unless you’re an eleven-year-old looking at the likes of Jake Paul and thinking he’s “soo kewl!”.

Then yeah, they might believe you 100%.

You just gotta find that balance and play with it like you would in any other game.

Cause really, what is social media if not a game to be played.

fouadtolaib

It’s obvious I write everything myself on this site so I won’t start with the generic “Fouad is…” cause I’m not that important 😆 Let’s just say I’m a startuphile who loves to make products and grow them like Madonna’s gardener. How about we connect on Twitter? Good.